Waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right 

by Stephanie Wood 

Americans don’t like to wait. We complain about our Internet connection if it’s slower than 56K. We become impatient if our “fast food” order takes more than 60 seconds to land on our tray. We hate long red lights, and heaven help the person who cuts in front of us in the check-out lane. 

MTV has clocked our attention span at approximately 7 seconds. For a generation whose fast-paced society forgot to teach them that patience is a virtue, waiting for God’s perfect timing in finding the spouse of our dreams can be a pretty tough cookie to swallow.  

If you’re a single young adult and feel called to the vocation of marriage, you may be tempted to become discouraged or distressed that you haven’t yet found the one God has chosen to be your spouse. Waiting can be hard and sometimes even painful, not only because we struggle with the virtue of patience, but also because waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right requires us to trust in God’s unseen plan for our lives. In the area of relationships, Christ is challenging us to step out of the boat with St. Peter, and leave the walking on water part to Him.   

Try to utilize your time of singleness to prepare yourself to become a godly spouse, and to work on building and strengthening the most important relationship you’ll ever have: your relationship with Jesus Christ.  

Learn to love Jesus with all your heart. Learn to trust Him. Allow Him to take care of you and provide for all your needs. Work on your communication with your Heavenly Spouse through frequent prayer. And dine daily at the bountiful meal He has prepared for you in the Eucharist. 

Waiting for our spouse is purification for our souls. It’s an opportunity for us to surrender one hundred percent of our hearts to Christ, and work on developing the most intimate love relationship with our Creator. Because it is only then, when we have learned to love God for His own sake, that we are ready to love another: the man or woman we’ve been waiting for. 

A few nights ago I spoke with my friend Christine on the phone. We talked about how hard it is sometimes to trust God completely with this time in our lives as single young women, waiting for God to unveil the “next step” in His plan for our lives. Christine shared with me a letter that was read at her brother’s wedding several years ago. The letter, written as a personal message from God, touched my heart deeply. As Christine read the verses to me on the phone, I realized that the deeply passionate and intimate relationship with God that the letter describes is exactly what I want for my own life. The following love letter has become a prayer for me, and I hope that as you read it, it will become the prayer of your heart as well.

Remember to always pray to your guardian angel and your patron saint, and ask them to intercede for you before the throne of God, asking your First Love to send you, in His perfect timing, the one who will make all your dreams come true.

“Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37:4

“Everyone longs to give themselves completely to

someone – to have a deep soul relationship with another,

to be loved thoroughly and exclusively.

But God, to a Christian, says,

“No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and content with

being loved by Me alone – with giving yourself totally and

unreservedly to Me –

with having an intensely personal and unique relationship

with Me alone will you be capable of the perfect human

relationship that I have planned for you.

You will never be united with another until you are united

with Me – exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of

any other desires or longings.

I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow Me to

give you the most thrilling plan existing – one that you

cannot imagine.

I want you to have the best.

Please allow Me to bring it to you.

You just keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things –

keep experiencing the satisfaction that I am.

Keep listening and learning the things I tell you.

You just wait. That’s all.

 

Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Don’t look around at the

things others have or that I’ve given them. Don’t look at

the things you think you want. You just keep looking off

and away up to Me, or you’ll miss what I want to show you.

 

And then, when you’re ready, I’ll surprise you with a love

far more wonderful than any you would dream of.

You see, until you are ready, and until the one I have for

you is ready (I am working even at this moment to have

both of you ready at the same time), until you are both

satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I prepared for you,

you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies

your relationship with Me, and this is the perfect love.

 

And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love,

I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship

with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the

everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer

you with Myself.

 

Know that I love you utterly.

I am God.

Believe it and be satisfied.”

 

- Author Unknown